Now more than ever, I appreciate knowing my mom is there to listen, to give advice (when asked!
), and to pick me up when I occasionally stumble and fall." -Liza, 17 "Right now - and I think this is something that I have always and will always need from my mom - is someone to talk to.
Their role is not to be a friend but to be a caring, understanding, and non-punitive parent.
By being that kind of parent you will often hear a daughter end up saying, 'My mom is my best friend." Suzanne Bonfiglio Baumann offers an interesting perspective about why moms might struggle with that mom/friend boundary.
I feel that I need to have someone that I can simply pour my heart out to and tell everything without opinion or judgment." -Tiffany, 14 "What I need most from my mother right now is love and support.
For example, I am a new driver and my mother gave me a car to use.
Having been blessed with an amazing mom myself, I can think of three things my mom offered me from an early age that I think set the foundation for our beautiful relationship: giving love, spending time, and showing support and respect for what mattered to me.
It would definitely be nicer if she was around more, especially when I come home to visit from school." Suzanne says, "Gossiping about other kids or their parents or teachers, 'partying' with your child and her friends, or otherwise over-identifying with a developmental stage that your child needs to see you've outgrown are not only inappropriate behaviors, they are harmful ones.Instead of my mother telling me, 'It's ok,' or 'Things happen,' she yelled at me and told me that I would have to pay to fix the car out of my own pocket.