” Haven’t we evolved enough to true equality that it doesn’t matter who makes more as long as the couple as a unit is doing okay?
Or are women stuck on the old world order where men provided and women took care of the home – even though most 0,000 earning women don’t want to be homemakers? Do you want the option of quitting work and maintaining your high lifestyle, when men don’t have this option?
This is not a bad thing, as long as both partners, particularly the younger one, are mature enough to handle the situation.
Sometimes age differences can seem insurmountable, especially if you are a younger guy, looking to ask an older girl out.
Why wasn’t I getting reciprocal lovey-doveyness when we were first married? From Disney movies to my favorite shows like “The Office” to practically every pop song released, love is constantly sold as an emotion we have before we’re married.
And that’s why my wife just gave me that half-smile. And now that I’ve tried to change the way I look at love, the more I become shocked at the messages of love I had gotten when I was younger.
If so, is this the rare double-standard that works in favor of women?
I had tried really hard up to that point to hold it back, honestly. I think part of me recognized that she was much smarter and more modest than me. This fire was burning in me, a fire that burned just like that second date: I was in love. Marriage, quicker than I was ready for, did this thing: it started sucking away that emotion. In other words, it was in the practicality that I found the love I was looking for. That fire I felt, it was simply that: emotional fire. I think that might be a big part of the reason the divorce rate is so high in this country. It’s time that we changed the conversation about love. Because until we do, adultery will continue to be common. Doesn’t the value of being self-sufficient come in not having to worry about someone supporting you?For a self-sufficient, high-earning man, a woman’s earning potential carries very little weight. Because we have always been taught that nobody is going to pay our way in life. She enjoyed the sex we had, she just wanted me to last longer, breathe deeper, and be more in the moment.
I once had a 30 year old woman buy me a copy of “The Multi-Orgasmic Man” for my birthday.
I’d think that at this stage of life (late 50s) a year or two (or 10) hardly matters.